Trapped Like Rats: The In-Between Phase of Life

What’s an in-between phase of life?

Like transitioning from childhood into adulthood through adolescence, it is a special level of living-hell designed for people who are moving past one phase of life, but haven’t quite reached the next.

There are many Hells we have to navigate in this world and I’ve lived through my fair share, but none quite as unique as this.

An in-between phase can look like a lot of things.

Maybe your life is at a standstill because of a long-distance relationship.

Maybe you’re waiting to make that next big career move, but you have to wait until certain things fall into place.

Maybe your friends are all married with kids, but you’re still searching for Mr. Right.

Or maybe you’re married and your life is calming down, but your friends are still in that young and hip stage of life and hanging out with them makes you feel old and lame.

Regardless of what your in-between looks like, it probably feels pretty frustrating and I think the worst thing about an in-between phase is how freaking lonely it feels. Like there just isn’t anyone else out there who really gets it, and there’s nowhere for you to really fit in.

Life comes with many clear phases, and usually when you’re in one of those phases, there’s a community of people that you can become a part of. But it’s really hard to find people who are in that awkward in-between, and it can be alienating. No one really seems to get it. They either want you to jump back down to the level you’re leaving, or hurry up already and get to the next.

Plus, being in an in-between can make you feel like a total loser who can’t seem to get their shit together.

Well the good news is, that’s not the case at all. The reason you’re probably in an in-between is because you’re working really hard to get your shit together, or to make your life better in one way or another. You’re just not quite there yet, and that’s okay.

In-betweens totally suck, but if nothing else helps, try to remember this: In-betweens are temporary, and sooner or later, you’ll be nestled comfortably in your next phase of life.

That is, once you figure out how to navigate the fresh hell that comes with it.

Are you caught in an in-between phase of life? How does it make you feel? Have you found anything that helps you cope? If you have a specific experience, I’d love to hear about it! Share your thoughts with me in the comments below!


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