Engaging in Self-Care: How I find Balance Through The Craziness Of Life

I can always tell when I’ve started letting my self-care routine slide a little… Or when I’ve taken on too much without giving myself the extra self-care that I need to manage all the things I’ve taken on.

The problem is, once I realize that I haven’t been caring for myself enough, it’s usually too late. Chances are that by the time I catch on to what’s happening, I’ve already had some sort of outburst or caused some sort of scene. In fact, that’s what usually clues me in.

Like today for example…

I just got into a really pointless fight with my boss about page formatting for our email blast template… What!? Are you kidding me!? A fight over formatting on an eblast template! That is not how you pick your battles Alex Crosbie Wilson!

Granted, I am prone to temper tantrums (have been my whole life), especially when it comes to doing things I don’t want to do… But when I’m caring for myself properly, I can usually stave them off pretty well.

Once the outburst has passed and I’ve calmed myself down, that’s when I’m able to start thinking clearly and realize, okay, time to re-evaluate my self-care routine.

I have a pretty busy and hectic life right now, and my self-care routine is designed to help me manage what I’ve got going on. I have daily and weekly non-negotiables – meaning I have to make time for these things.

My weekday non-negotiables include:

  • A cup of hot lemon water in the mornings.
  • Meditation in the morning.
  • A cup of tea at 10:30am (not before, not after).
  • A 12:30 lunch break (This one’s easier to miss than you might think).
  • A 10 minute break to go walk or sit outside at 4:30

My weekly non-negotiables include:

  • Attend a yoga class
  • Practice yoga at home 5 out 7 days a week
  • Sesame oil self-massage 4 out of 7 days a week
  • Reading for pleasure at least one night a week
  • Sit down and write (outside of work)
  • At least half a day to just sit at home and rest

This routine works pretty well with my typical schedule (working from 9-6 M-F, and teaching 4 yoga classes a week). But when I start adding more than that to my list (like picking up extra yoga classes, working overtime, going out on the week nights, and filling my weekends of social engagements), I need to make sure I add in more time for self-care. The balance is delicate, and when the scales tip too much in one direction, I start to feel cranky. When I’m cranky for an extended period of time (usually a day or two) that’s when I start to reach the danger zone and am at risk of causing a scene, having an outburst, or worst case scenario, setting off my anxiety (shudder).

If I’m adding to my self-care routine, I might start with my weekly list – more reading for pleasure, more yoga classes, and more time resting. If things are really crazy and I can’t find time for more weekly self-care practices, then I’ll try making time for smaller things, like going outside more than once during the day, indulging in a sweet treat (like a cookie) after lunch, calling up a friend or sibling to chat for a bit over my lunch break or on the way to work…

The things I add in when my life gets super crazy are meant to be extra special – things I don’t normally do. And usually that helps with finding more balance.

I guess it’s time to check myself, and add in a few extra self-care practices until things settle back down to my normal level of crazy.

Do you use any self-care habits to maintain balance in your life? What sort of things do you like to do to treat yourself? Do any of my non-negotiables sound like something you’d like to add to your daily routine?

I’d love to hear about how you manage the craziness that sometimes sneaks into your life. Tell me about your self-care routine in the comments below!

9 thoughts on “Engaging in Self-Care: How I find Balance Through The Craziness Of Life

  1. Great stuff Alex, thanks for sharing! 🙂

    How we look after to ourselves is important, you are so right! Taking time out to do things that we enjoy will make us inevitably feel better and probably be a better person to be around.

    I also meditate everyday and this is one of my non-negotiables. I have really been enjoying the benefits, such as being calmer and more mindful everyday!

    Loving the content, keep doing what you’re doing! 🙂

    PS – On a related note, I’m on the hunt for feedback for my new show The HERO Podcast! It’s all about creating healthy habit. The episode with Derek Doepker may be of interest to you where he discusses how to make lasting changes. You can check it out (and maybe leave a short review if you like) here: http://apple.co/2kjNoGN

    1. Thank you Luke 🙂 good stuff. Meditation is one of my favorite daily habits. I look forward to it every morning and it really does have a lot of great benefits.

      I’d love to check out your show and leave some feedback. Thanks for sharing it with me. I’ll be sure to take a look as soon as I get a chunk of free time 🙂

  2. I love reading your posts. I will probably tell you this every time. LOL! This whole doing things for me thing is really new since the birth of Leigh. I never made it a point to do anything for myself before, except spending time on Facebook and my Forum. I guess it took adding in the second kid to make me see I needed me time.

    With that said here is what I try to do daily :
    *start with my AM Yoga video
    *watch the 2nd hour of Good Morning America
    *have quiet time at lunch with no TV and as little noise as possible
    *take a walk, just me
    *take a shower or bath alone in the dark listening to some of my favorite music or just sit in silence
    *watch a TV show without the kids so I can hear it
    *read in my devotional or do a bible study (I’m still working on this one)

    And this is what I try to do Monthly:
    *go to one Mom’s Night Out get together
    *go to MOPS

    1. That’s awesome M, I love it! I think for moms, it’s easy to get caught up in just being a mom, so it’s super important to make room for your “you” time. I’m super glad that you’ve been trying to make more time for that since Leigh was born.

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